From: L. Michael Hall                            
2016 Meta-Coaching Support: Morpheus #03
Jan 19 2016 （2016 年 1 月 19 號）

“Meta-Questions!  Meta-Questions!  I know them, I can ask the ten meta-questions that we practiced at Coaching Mastery, but when I start coaching, I forget them.  What can I do to be better at meta-questions?”  That question was recently sent to me by a Meta-Coach.  Nor was it the first time I’ve heard it.  It seems that many Meta-Coaches struggle with being skilled in asking meta-questions.

 

「大成提問！大成提問！我知道的，我可以在課堂上問 10 個大成提問，但是當我開始教練時，我忘記了。我要如何使我更熟練大成提問？最近有一位大成練寫給我。其實這也不是我第一次聽到的。看起來有許多大成教練們對于熟悉發問大成提問有所掙扎。

 

So, what’s the story that makes asking meta-questions seemingly difficult? What can I do to integrate meta-questions into my coaching style?

 

有甚麽故事使發問大成提問看起來那麽困難呢？

我可以做甚麽事情把大成提問融入到自己的教練風格呢？

 

In answer, I will first re-state what a meta-question is, our understanding of meta-questions in the coaching experience, and why they are so important.  Our working definition of a meta-question is that it is a question about how you are experiencing your experience.  Regular primary questions start the process by asking about the experience:

 

回答此問題，我先重申甚麽是大成提問，在教練體驗裏對于大成提問的理解以及它們爲何如此重要。我們對大成提問的運作定義是它是有關于你如何體驗自己體驗的提問。一般初始提問是透過有關于體驗開始發問的：

 

When did you have that experience?  Where?  With whom?   你何時有那種體驗？在哪？跟誰？

 

What was the context?  What was the experience like?   場景是甚麽？體驗像甚麽？

 

What did you think and feel? 你想到和感受到甚麽？

 

All of these precision questions help to ground the experience and give you sufficient content and context about the experience.  When you then follow up with meta-questions, you move inside

the experience and invite your client to go into the inner game of his beliefs, values, understandings, expectations, memories, imaginations, permissions, taboos, and more. 所有這些準確的提問幫助我們讓體驗可以落地幷提供有關于體驗的足够之內容和場景。當你用大成提問時，你走入體驗的內在幷邀請客戶進入他的信念，價值，理解，期待，記憶，想像，許可，禁忌更多之內在游戲。

 

What do you believe about experience X?

你對于 Y 體驗有何信念？

 

Do you value or dis-value experience X?  If so, what do you value about it?

你是否認爲 X 體驗有價值或沒有價值？如果有的話，它的價值是甚麽？

 

As you have experience X, how does that affect your sense of yourself?

當你已經體驗 X 了，它如何影響自我感覺呢？

 

As you can probably tell, these meta-questions enable the conversation that you’re having to become intimately deep.  You are now moving toward what’s really important and significant to the person.  You stop skating on the surface as you move inside to the heart of things— the person’s attributed meanings.  Usually this is where the coaching becomes real, becomes personal, and your client starts to come out from behind his personas and masks and gets real.

 

你或許可以猜得出來，這些大成提問使對話變得親密深入。你正在朝向對她真正重要和有意義的方向前進。當你進入事情的核心 – 他所賦予的意義 – 你以不在表面上溜達。通常這裏是需要教練過程變成真實，自身的及客戶開始從僞裝和面具背後走出來變得真實。

 

If you don’t ask meta-questions, then your coaching stays superficial and a regular kind of conversation.  It fails to become what Coaching should be—a conversation like none other, one that allows a client to confront her inner reality and make the life-changing alterations to free the person and unleash best potentials.

 

如果你不問大成提問，你的教練維持膚淺和是一般性的對話。它不會變成教練應該要有的對話 – 一種會使客戶面質自己內在真實性的對話幷製造生活變化的改造來釋放他本人以及最佳潜能。

 

The art of asking meta-questions begins with the NLP modeling thinking.  Start with the realization that every experience has a hidden structure.  When you realize this and operate from this realization, you will want to be eliciting the person’s strategy for how he does his experience.  If he says he procrastinates, think, “How do you do that?”  If she says she makes excuses, think, “What is the structure of excuse-making?”  This modeling perspective enables you to accept what the person offers without getting caught up in the content.  It enables you to use the know-nothing perspective to find out how this incredible person before you creates her reality.  The experience is a process, has steps, and it works.  Your job?  Find out how it works. 大成提問的藝術從 NLP 模仿思考開始。從認知到每一種體驗有隱藏的結構開始。當你認知到這個幷從這種認知上運作，你會想要去誘導他如何體驗的的策略。如果他說他拖延，想想「他如何做到的？」如果他說他找藉口，想想：「找藉口的結構是甚麽？」這樣的模仿角度是你可以接受客戶所提供的內容但不會介入內容太深。它使你用甚麽都不知道的角度找出這位神奇人物是如何創建他的真實性。體驗是一種進程，有步驟也有效。你的工作？找出它如何運作。

 

The art of asking meta-questions entails this meta-perspective.  So dis-engage from your need to fix things, help, succeed as a coach and focus on seeking first to understand your client on your client’s terms.  That will enable you to explore with your client and ask questions whose answers lie outside of their conscious awareness.

 

發問大成提問的藝術帶出這種大成觀點。因此你從放開解决事情，幫助，做成功教練的需要幷專注先找尋理解客戶的用詞。這使你可以跟客戶一起探索幷提問那些意識覺察外的答案之問題。

 

What the positive intention behind making that excuse?

 

找那個藉口的正面意向是甚麽？

 

And let’s say that’s true, so what? What’s the meaning that’s governing that intention?

就當作它是真的，然後呢？有甚麽意義管制那個意向呢？

 

Now the art of those questions lie in holding the content and going deeper (higher) with a fascinating curiosity, not knowing what you will get and all the while staying in a state of being amazed and caring for your client.

 

那些提問的藝術取决于握住內容以及用既神奇也好奇心態進入更深層（或高層），不知道會得到甚麽以及一直保持著很神奇和關懷客戶的狀態。

 

“You say the positive intention is living up to your responsibilities, what do you believe about living up to your responsibilities?”

 

「你說正面意向是實踐你的責任，你對于實踐你的責任有何信念？」

 

 

The next aspect of the art of asking meta-questions is to listen— really listen— did the person answer the question?  Frequently they do not.  Frequently they do not go inside and up into their meaning structure.  Instead, they go out.  They talk about what they will do, should do, what they feel, etc.  Instead of going to the meaning frames governing their experience (which your question invited them), they go out trying to fix something out in the external world.

 

發問大成教練提問之藝術的另外一個面向是要聆聽，真正聆聽，對方是否有回答你的問題？通常他們不回答。通常他們不要走入內在以及走到他們的意義結構。他們反而是往外。他們談有關于他們會做的事情，應該做的事情，他們感受到甚麽等等。與其進入管制他們體驗的意義框架（也就是你的提問邀請他們進去的），他們往外嘗試要解决外在世界的事情。

 

To ask meta-questions, you’ve got to notice this and come back to the question.  It’s precisely because most people do not easily go inside and access their meanings, that they need you— need a Coach.  As a coach, this is what you have to help them do that.

 

要發問大成提問，你要注意這些幷回到問題。這就是爲何許多人不容易進入內在索取意義的原因，因此他們需要你，需要教練。身爲教練，這就是你要幫助他們做到的。

 

“Let me come back to your beliefs about ‘living up to your responsibilities,’ can we do that?  [Yes.] Okay, so if this is your intention, there must be some belief about that.  What is that?”

 

「讓我們回來談有關于「實踐你的責任」的信念，行嗎？「好吧」。那麽如果這是你的意向，你一定對它有一些信念。那是甚麽？」

 

 

In summary, the art of asking meta-questions entails the following:

 

提問大成問題引發出以下：

 

  • Set your intention to evoke a conversation that goes inside to the inner game. Aim to elicit our intimately deep conversation like non-other.

設定你的意向引起進入內在游戲的對話。目標是要誘導出親密深入的對話。

 

  • Adopt a modeling perspective. “My client’s experience is X, so how does he do X?”  “What is his internal strategy for doing X?”

 

采取模仿觀點，「客戶體驗是 X，他如何做到 X 的？」「他做到 X 的內在策略是甚麽？」。

 

  • Disengage your need to give advice, fix, and “help” your client. Embrace the idea that your client has all the needed resources to do that herself if only you evoke and facilitate the unleashing and coaching process.

 

放開要提供建議，解决和「幫助」客戶的渴望。你要擁抱的想法是客戶有所需的資源，只要你引起和優化釋放以及教練進程，他自己可以做到。

 

  • Hold the meta-frame and keep noticing if your client goes inside or not, and keep asking the meta-questions to expose the hidden structure that the client is using to create his reality.

 

保持住大成框架幷一直注意客戶是否有進到內在，以及不斷發問大成提問揭露客戶産生現實的隱藏結構。

 

And if you have questions about this, write to me at meta@acsol.net. 如果你對于這個有要疑問，請發郵件給老麥，meta@acsol.net.

 

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